Proverbs 31
This proverb is from a mother to her son who will be or is already king. Verse 3 is sound advice:
Do not waste your strength on women
or invest yourself in women who would destroy even kings.
How many of men have been in trouble from women with intentions not of God? This is a difficult subject since half the world’s population is being warned against to the other half. Granted this proverb is really ensuring the king ensures his wife is one of virtue and not just a broad stroke against having a wife at all. I believe that relationships have been compromised in society because we do not follow God’s intentions.
As one great philosopher once said “don’t let your dick run your life” I think men miss this truth. Often we drift from relationship to relationship, trying to find the perfect “mate” by test driving. In the end it erodes the significance of marriage and man’s view of women. Women’s self-worth is driven by this since man’s desires are unchecked. Mom is not only protecting her son, but protecting women as well.
Verse 6 shows the other problem men have, drinking:
Rather, give liquor to one who is dying,
and offer wine to those struggling with life’s harsh realities.
God never said don’t drink, but rather don’t get drunk. There is a difference here and where “drink” helps one unwind, “drunk” loosens one morality. Once morality is compromised, it becomes a downward spiral of looking the other way on offensives.
Verse 11 and on talk about the qualities desired in a “queen”:
She inspires trust, and her husband’s heart is safe with her,
and because of her, he has every good thing.
I believe if men respected women in general, women would respect them more and be inspired to the qualities described in this proverb. Please note we are not trying to make a “subservient” gender, but rather a relationship built on respect of each other. Sure the king has the responsibility of a nation and needs harmony at home, all could be done if we just went back to the basics of the Ten Commandments.